Trust without any guarantee that your trust will be respected. Love without any guarantee that your love will be returned. Be kind without any guarantee that your kindness will be appreciated. This is the dance of authenticity, the risk that being completely yourself will open you to the most satisfying of all relationships.
Beginnings are a time to shake up your own assumptions, and others, and recommit to living with absolute authenticity.
Materialism doesn’t bring as much satisfaction as you hope, familiarity doesn’t bring as much comfort as you expect, and security doesn’t bring as much peace of mind as you imagine. So set out, in tune with higher values like integrity and trust.
This is not to suggest that it’s easy. The snake loses its skin by rubbing against rocks and hard surfaces. Change is much the same. We often have to rub against something; another person, a nemesis, a rough edge of self judgment, a prickly challenge, rock bottom, to shed yesterday’s skin. It can hurt and it can leave scars
French author Anatole France wrote, All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind is part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another.
Unlike the snake who sheds an outer layer of skin, for humans it’s an inner layer of self protection that is shed. It’s an inner snake, like water moving through the end of a hose, wriggling with new life. In Hindu mythology, the snake lies dormant at the base of the spine. This is the Kundalini energy, the potential for new beginnings within every one of us. Osho said, “Kundalini means your total potential, your total possibility
It aligns all the energy in your body so that you become fully alive, aware and engaged, integrating body, mind and spirit in a melodic three-part chorus that has your feet moving, your heart beating fast and your vision soaring. The kundalini brings together the receptive energy and the active energy (yin and yang) in a powerful duet, conducted by intuitive awareness, that allows you to let go of the life that was holding you back and step into the life of your true calling. This is the power of new beginnings
Learning to trust an unpredictable world changes your whole outlook on life. It makes the world a more open, inviting and friendly place. Don’t give your trust recklessly. Give your trust mindfully; aware that there are no guarantees and there is always the chance you will be hurt again. In your calmest moments, you know that the risk to keep your heart closed is nothing in comparison to the joy of sharing love
It seems backward, but the first step to building trust in relationships is to accept that there are no guarantees. As Comedian, Randy Millholand said, “There are people I know who won’t hurt me. I call them corpses.”
Be realistic. There are risks involved. But also believe. Believe that there is something stronger than the risk- that is the joy of dropping your guard with another person, letting that person into your private wthoughts and dreams and making a commitment to love each other through thick and thin. Risk your trust in return for the adventure of being in love. Trust opens the gates to love
The Speed of Trust; The One Thing that Changes Everything. He offers the analogy that every relationship has a trust account. When you build trust, you make a deposit. When you break a trust, you make a withdrawal. The withdrawals are typically larger than the deposits. Therefore the fastest way to rebuild the trust account is to stop making withdrawals. The other way to rebuild trust is to make new deposits.